I recently had a conversation with a young woman on soul mates.  Her talk of finding that “one soul mate made for her” worried me.  Don’t get me wrong, I believe in marriage and wish for every young woman to experience success in it, but soul mates aren’t found, they’re made.

Marriages, even good ones, take work, a lot of work.  I don’t care how perfect you think he is in the beginning, or how totally in love you are, make no mistake, the struggles will come.  And when they do, what are you going to say?  “Oh, I guess he wasn’t my soul mate after all,” then move on to the next one.  Don’t do this.  Just because something isn’t easy doesn’t make it wrong. 

When you marry, fortify in your mind the saying, “No matter what.”  Come hell or high water, no matter what happens we will be together.  It’s in the fiery furnace of life where “soul mates” are forged, but that bond won’t be very strong if you’re only touching fingertips and looking around for something better to come along.  Once you marry, cling, cling to the spouse you chose with every fiber of strength you have.  I mean let’s be honest, doesn’t snuggling your way through life sound a whole lot better than just occasionally holding hands.