I overheard a jaw dropping conversation that I hope isn’t a reflection of the rest of our rising generation. A young woman, in her early twenties, was telling a friend how frustrated she was with her boyfriend’s lack of commitment. Really the young lady was angry at the wrong party in the relationship. If marriage was that important to you, don’t go moving in together until you’ve been married. Whenever your actions don’t reflect your inner desires or standards, you’re sure to end up disappointed with the results of your life. Haven’t you ever heard of the saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” It’s not the most tasteful of sayings, but it’s still true nonetheless. You gave up your milk; he has no reason to buy you.
Unfortunately, the conversation didn’t get better from there. Along with marriage, she wanted to have her first child by the time she turned twenty-seven. The goal in itself isn’t terrible, but then she started talking about kicking the boyfriend out and getting artificially inseminated if he doesn’t come around by the time she turns twenty-seven. “My mom raised me by herself and I turned out just fine,” she tells her friend. Oh sweet love, this young woman has no idea how hard it is to raise children. I bet if she had an honest conversation with her mom, she’d find out there were many people who helped raise her. It’s impossible to raise a child alone.
One day, I hope someone talks some sense into that young woman. As an eavesdropping stranger, I doubt I could have said anything to change her mind. But I hope those of you reading this will see her folly and choose not to follow. The path she’s on is full of difficulties and heartache.