Our perspective taints every situation, affecting how we process people and events. Is that person in the corner at a party stuck-up or shy? Can you see how your initial perspective would influence your reaction? If you feel they’re stuck-up you would avoid them, if shy, you’d probably make a more concerted effort to include. Yet, neither might be the real reason they are in the corner—maybe they’re coming down with a cold, and not feeling well.

Having a perspective is neither good nor bad, it just is. It’s an innate part of our makeup that is influenced greatly by our experiences, so don’t bother wasting time trying to get rid of it. Instead, learn to accept that your initial reaction to a person or situation might be wrong, so don’t cling to it. The difference between a smile and a smirk might be all in your head.