Stuffed Souls insights

In Stuffed Souls the character of Megan is an interesting one. She is integral to the plot, yet she isn’t actually there, since her body was taken over by first, Jessica, and then Claire. Imagine someone else taking over your life. What dark secrets would they find? Maybe that wouldn’t be such a bad thing. The pain they uncover in Megan’s past brings a level of understanding that could only be found by walking in her shoes, literally. What better way to get a new perspective on life. You can crack open this exciting book today. Right now it’s on sale! Click on the book below to get your copy, or ebook now.

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A blast from the past

Research for an upcoming lecture I’m giving led be back to my first published book this week. It’s crazy how much of the plot of A Heart Divided I had forgotten. At times it almost felt like the words had been written by somebody else. Years ago, when I was just starting out, I once heard an established author say something similar. At the time, I thought it wasn’t possible. How could you not recognize something you’d spent so many painstaking hours on? Well…she was right.

The fun part about being so far removed from the story, I got sucked into the intricate and often hilarious relationships. I read far more than I had intended, but don’t regret the time spent one bit. If you haven’t read my Rory’s Choice series you’re really missing out. They really are worth the read. Click on the books below to get your ebook versions and catch up today.






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Protecting yourself from some of dating’s emotional landmines

Dating is an unavoidable journey every girl must pass through in this life—unless you’re planning on doing this life thing completely solo. If you were to ask other women their opinions on the subject,you would get all kinds of reviews—from the “loved my dating years” to the “I never want to do that again.” Dating is all about putting yourself out there, so yes, there’s a good chance you’re going to feel vulnerable—maybe even downright betrayed along the way. To completely avoid all heartache is impossible, but there are a couple things you can, and should do, to minimize the risk.

First, fixer-upper boyfriends, those with painful pasts and endless excuses for their poor behavior, aren’t worth your time. And if you’re thinking, hey it’s just dating. Remember, nothing messes with your head more than falling in love, and sadly, once we do it’s hard to break those ties—even with idiots. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life having to pull someone along? Trust me, that’ll get old—fast.

Second, honesty is always the best policy, and the easiest way to weed out non-compatibles quickly. If you’re looking for a husband and want to have six kids, say so within the first couple of dates. Even if you’re a career woman bent on climbing the corporate ladder but want companionship, share these feelings early on. And if you’re thinking those are kind of heavy topics for first dates, I say how much time do you plan to waste on someone who doesn’t share your core values? Dating is not the place to change people’s minds. I promise you will find someone compatible, so don’t fear cutting lose those that don’t feel the same way. The longer you date, the more attached you become, so it’s in your best interest anyway.

Date with your head far more than your heart. I can assure you the heart doesn’t need much prodding when it comes to emotional and physical attachments. It will jump on board with whomever you choose.

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Our interactions with others never come with a free pass

It’s hard when someone criticizes you. Some might even say those words can cut deeper than any knife. So it’s easy to see why people often try to deflect criticism by pointing out someone else fault instead. Having been hurt many times by disparaging words, I can understand the reason behind this often gut reaction to redirect harsh words on others. By slamming someone else’s behavior as worse than yours might help you feel better for a moment. But in reality, you are always responsible for your behavior. It doesn’t matter what someone says or does, you can’t be cruel in return and think their actions absolve you of yours. You will pay for your choice, just as they will pay for theirs, so choose wisely.

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Sometimes experience is the only way

I have never cried over sending my kids to school. I want my kids to be independent, rational thinkers that will one day leave my house. But, now my oldest is a senior. Watching him prepare to leave for school for his last first day of secondary education this week, brought tears that even my analytical side couldn’t stop. Yes, future success requires that he leave our home to find his own way. But, holy crap, why did he have to grow up so fast?

What’s worse, I remember how adult I thought I was as a senior all those years ago. Looking back from this vantage point, I now realize how immature I really was. And my son isn’t any better in that department. Yet, here we are, careening toward graduation. The thought makes it hard for me to breathe, but I still won’t delay the inevitable when it finally comes. Life is a hard teacher, but sometimes there is no other way to gain understanding than by experience. I only hope when he does finally leave, I’ll have filled him with enough knowledge to avoid some of life’s pitfalls. Fingers crossed.

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Should you take the reins?

Somewhere along the path of life everyone has to learn to think for themselves. Believe me, as a parent of teenagers, I find this truth to be the scariest thing to face. But, being afraid doesn’t change the facts. Your life is yours to command. Now, before the teenagers reading this decide to toss all parental guidance aside, let me also warn you—every choice you make comes with a consequence—some good, some bad. When you are willing to fully accept those consequences, whatever they may be, then you are mature enough to think solely for yourself. Blame can no longer be a part of your vocabulary, unless you feel like directing it at yourself—because you made the choice.

Now, if you’re worried you might not be able to do that whole not blaming thing, then you’re not ready to think solely for yourself. You still need the influence of outward guidance. The test of having the ability to manage absolute control of your own life—to think for yourself—is really that simple, and yet a critical point that sometimes even adults struggle with. So, don’t be too hard on yourself if it takes quite a bit of practice to truly learn to own one’s life.

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A reunion almost eight years in the making

This post is especially poignant for me.  I’ve been writing for over decade, but for almost eight years now the space I had to use was my kitchen table. I began this journey of writing on a beautiful oversized desk, that was once my husband’s but ended up being mine since I commandeered so much of its time. As always, my loving husband didn’t mind. In fact, Mr. Constant Encouragement never minds.

When we had to sell our house in the Henderson, Nevada area I lost my office space. I learned to work in open areas, teaming with distractions. All the while my husband would promise, “One day, you’ll have an office again.”

Years passed, hardships came and went, along with many moves. Without fail, each new place didn’t have a space or a doorway big enough for that big beautiful desk. The poor thing sat in unfinished basements collecting dust, while I trudged on determined to make time for my writing, even if that meant the middle of the night.

Two years ago we moved again, and once again, there was no office space.

“We’ll make you an office here, in this house,” my husband said.

I’ll be honest, as a typical mom, I’m more concerned about making sure my children’s needs are met, but my husband wouldn’t be derailed. Every evening, almost every weekend for the past eight months, he has worked on the basement. It’s crazy hard to do it all by yourself, but being able to be in my own office, sitting at the big beautiful desk for the first time in almost eight years, I’m beyond grateful for his effort.

This desk is where it all began for me. Where I found a path in life that truly fills my soul with joy. Where my first heroine, Rory Olsen, in the Rory’s Choice series, took her first breath in my imagination. I’m so glad to have you back, old friend.

My new office


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